Glad to be me. (never thought I would say that)

Sometimes
Only sometimes
I question everything
And I'm the first to admit
If you catch me in a mood like this
I can be tiring

Ah the holidays... Nothing like family gettogethers to show how screwed up people in general, especially your own family members, can be.
This entry is about my younger brother. He is just 4 years younger and we share what I thought to be several traits in common. We are both very good at solving problems( I am talking about the male kind of problems like fixing stuff, not people). We look alike( I am taller by a few inches). We both come up with crazy ideas at the same time etc... You get the picture.

Well, lil'bro is working out of marriage #2. He wasn't even completely out of #1 when he had the wedding ceremony for #2 take place. Yeah, I was supposed to keep that a secret but, so what. Him and wife#2 separated before the hurricane hit here. Things were not working out for them and I was actually supportive of his decision. I did not think it was a smart one to begin with. So for a while I was calm inside knowing that wife#2 was no longer going to be part of our extended family.

So during the holidays I was talking to him on the phone trying to find out what my two lovely nephews would like for gifts(I really do love my nephews and no mean spirited connotations should be felt from that last statement in comparison to the entire post) when I ask my brother what is wrong. He leads on to him getting his soon to be ex-wife#2 is pregnant. Since I was in a store during the season of stupid shoppers, I suggested we finish this conversation at a later time. So Christmas eve is the time it is discussed. Apparently sometime after the hurricane they decided to get back together as a "dating" couple and were not going to get the mixed kids involved. Well shithead and shitheadess didn't think to take precautions and now she is pregnant. The thoughts of how fucking different we are ran through my head. He has cheated on past girl-friends, before meeting wife#2 he slept around with women he met on the internet for one-nighters, he is not me. I also had thoughts of our families now having to bear each other for however long pissed me off as well.

During our discussion of how he knows he was stupid and weak et al, he mentions abortion. The night goes on and I eventually leave with my kids. On the hour long drive back home I call my wife(she was sick and I didn't want her to to suffer company while under the weather) and tell her we need to talk. In my mind I could not let an unborn child die because their birth parents were too stupid to do better and possible be unwilling to care for it. When I got home and I got the kids to bed, I told her of my idea to offer to adopt if they were choosing the pre-emptive route. We are not rich people and our house fits us OK now, but we can always make room for another. She agreed and did not see this as a sacrifice. I do not see it as that either. The next day we polled the kids and they were even supportive of it. I made the call and told my brother our offer. It is still undecided on their part. I guess we will find out in the coming months.